I Care About You, But.....................

Feeling Supported Feeling Supported
There is something that I have observed over the years while working in the area of long-term weight management that seems to slip through the cracks when it comes to care and support. What I notice happening is that people can go from feeling supported and heard by their healthcare providers, only to return to their home and or social circles...
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My Room Is Crowded With People Who Are Not Physically In The Room

Feeling-sad-2022 Kat-j-NPmRORbly All Those Comments Take Their Toll
There is something that comes up over and over again in my conversations with people living with obesity that is so upsetting and painful for them. I am heartened by the advocacy and the medical research that is finally being heard, and recognised in removing blaming the individual for their weight. My concerns are that we  stil...
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The Importance Of Being Believed

It is deep inside our brain The extraordinary complexities within the brain
Not being believed is a horrible feeling. Not being believed over and over again is a really horrible feeling. Being blamed for what you are not being believed about is also a really awful feeling. Being blamed by people who are meant to be helping you or reading running commentaries on social media about the concept of will power and lack of self ...
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If It Was That Simple, It Wouldn't Be So Hard

Tangled-and-complex Tangled & Complex
Some things to do with our weight, our height and our health are simply out of our control. For example no amount of nutritious food, exercise and positive thinking will make me taller or make my legs longer. I probably will feel stronger and fitter from the exercise and my insides will feel good from the extra nutrition and may protect me from som...
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My Reflections On World Obesity Day (March 2022)

Its-all-a-bit-confusing The many pieces of something we don't yet properly understand
 My Reflections On World Obesity Day (March 2022) It was world obesity day on Friday March 4th and I was reflecting on the many treatments that are available for people living with obesity, in particular just how fraught it can be trying to find appropriate help. Particularly  when there is an attitude from the community/media/ socia...
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Why Using "Guilt Free" As a Message To Sell Food Is Counterproductive

Its Totally OK To Eat Cake Sometimes Its Totally OK To Eat Cake Sometimes
Every time I read the words or hear the words "guilt free" I feel a slight tinge, and sometimes a great tinge of discomfort. When the words "guilt free" are used when discussing food and eating, especially as a way of selling products I cringe even more. As if people who are feeling vulnerable about their weight need to be humiliated and shamed any...
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Trauma Informed Care Can Play An Important Role In Weight Management Counselling

A safe place to share your story Trauma Informed Care Is Important
It is so important to have a space, a place and a time where you can share your story. And, when you share it, you are given the care, respect and space you need to feel safe. Safe from harm, safe to be heard and safe to ask for help. When I talk about obesity here I am not talking about being over weight or about someone who would like to lose a f...
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A Kinder Inner Voice is A Powerful Part Of Weight Management.

Lets rewrite the lyrics We can change the soundtrack
Imagine a sound track that is played to you on the radio, the TV, your computer, phone or wherever you get your music from, and it is of a song with lyrics you really don't like. Not only do you not like these lyrics, but the words are harsh, taunting and cruel. This sound track comes on as soon as you wake up in the m...
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We Simply Cannot Put Everyone Who Wants To Or Needs To Lose Weight Into A Generic Formula And Expect It To Work.

group-sessions Groups are a place where you can be supported by others who understand.
There is amazing research being conducted about the causes of obesity and the complexities involved in trying to lose weight and keep weight off. One thing we know for sure is that diets don't work and we also know that for many people living with excess weight, over eating is not necessarily the cause of their excess weight. As a society we need t...
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Keeping An Open Mind When It Comes To Weight Management Help On Offer

Feeling Weighed Down By Not Knowing What To Do? It Can Feel Like A Huge Emotional Load
"Hyper Vigilance, Exhaustion, Fatigued, Tedious, Frustrating, Annoying, Humiliating " These are some of the words that I have heard expressing how utterly exhausting losing weight and maintaining weight loss can be. Always thinking about what you eat, how much you've eaten, when you will eat, how much exercise you will do, did, might do, the "will ...
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Covid Kilos, Lock Down Blues, & Self Compassion

Self-Compassion Try A Little Tenderness
There is much heartache with the toll Covid is taking on people's mental health, It is a hard time, a scary time and a lonely time for so many of people. If ever there was a time for self-compassion it is now. At the risk of sounding a bit "out there" I feel it is something worth talking about. Many people are reaching out, worrying about pote...
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This Discrimination Is Loud In Its Silence

Discrimination hurts The impact of weight stigma
When people reach out to me for help with weight loss, there is sometimes a profound expression of sadness and stress from living in a body that society judges harshly. There is rarely a day  that goes by where they are not impacted by the relentless and misguided assumptions about who they are and how they live their lives. There is...
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Attending To Your Psychological Layers When Managing Your Weight Long -Term

Layers-2021 Self Care
Lately I've been reflecting on the idea of accountability and self-responsibility when it comes to weight loss and weight management. A common notion is that if someone is not losing weight, all they need to do is step up and take some responsibility. That is, it if they really wanted to achieve weight loss all they have to do is just "try harder" ...
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Would You Prefer To Land On A Soft Surface Or A Hard Surface?

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A sentiment that gets echoed time and time again in my work is people's sense of failure and disappointment when it comes to weight loss. The  roller coaster of losing weight only to regain that weight over and over again after each significant weight loss is exhausting and distressing. Here's the thing though! You haven't failed. You nev...
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When Recommendations Fail To Be Implemented : (When Theory & Practice Sometimes Don't Align)

 Why weight loss is way more complicated than a single concept Why weight loss is way more complicated than a single concept
I really feel for people wanting to lose weight for many reasons. It is a vulnerable place to be asking for help with weight management. Also, for the most part many of these people have heard and tried a lot of the recommendations currently available. Apart from the understanding we now have, ie that losing weight is far more complicated than impl...
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Your Story Matters When We Talk About Weight

Whats-on-your-mind_ Every Story Matters
Something I often reflect on when people talk to me about their weight is a raw and ever present sadness that surfaces in our sessions. It is not unusual for people late in life, sometimes well into their eighties to talk about the pain they felt as a child when someone shamed them for their weight. People recall with such clarity, the shame they f...
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Being Tough & Strict With Ones self Isn't Always The Way To Go

changing-thoughts-2021 Sometimes A Shift In Our Thinking Can Make A Difference
When it comes to weight loss, this time of year brings all sorts of goal setting ideas, resolutions, dietary guidelines, portion control suggestions, exercises tips, and recipes for 101 ways to cook with celery. Although I work in the field of weight management I have nothing new to offer in this space. However, I have a suggestion that might be wo...
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Being Able To Ask For Help With Weight Loss Without Being Judged, Shamed, Or Blamed Is Imperative

Sometimes  We Just Want To Hide Why Talking About It Might Help
As a counsellor working in the area of weight management, I sometimes I feel like I'm sitting in the corner occupying a space that is always hidden. I'm talking about the great weight debate. There seems to be two main discussions (I'm sure there are more) but these two dominate the media and mainstream ideologies around people living with excess w...
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Why Suspending Judgment Is So Important When It Comes To Helping Someone Living With Obesity.

October-blog-2020 Everyone Has A Unique Story
 Assumptions are dangerous when it comes to other people's weight. They are dangerous for a multitude of reasons. The biggest reason is that an assumption is often closely followed by a judgment. A judgment is often linked to attitudes and preconceived ideas. And, more often than not these judgments are linked to things that might not be true....
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Why Living In the Past and Future Detracts From Now

image-of-Now Why Living in The Past & The Future Is Making Now Feel Tough
The trouble with weight loss as we know now, is that keeping it off is very challenging and difficult. This is eternally frustrating and disappointing for people, and can quite often thrust them into a state of past thinking about what it was like when they had lost weight previously. They reflect on what they did, how they felt, and then there is ...
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